Let's get real here. Let's talk about the elephant in room.. the elephant in every room.. in society. Body image, weight, size.. all of these terms. Every day all over the world men and women are told how they should look, what size they should be and how they can achieve that perfect size. For now, I'm just going to talk about the woman's side of this and the constant battles she goes through from the time of a child through adulthood. From the time we are small we are given Barbie dolls, with their unrealistic size, to play with and to think is beautiful. We listen to the mean kids in school who have been taught by society and the media as to what is beautiful or what is acceptable. This leads to eating disorders, depression, self harming, bullying and more at a very young age even sadly to suicide in some cases. Most women never get over these feelings - some learn to love themselves and adapt and occasionally struggle while others are controlled by this for their whole lives. Woman should be empowered by others to feel beautiful. Glamour magazine conducted an exclusive survey in which they asked more than 1,800 women, ages 18 to 40, to imagine an “overweight” woman and a “thin” woman. They were told to imagine that they know nothing about either of the women, and to choose from pairs of words to describe them (such as ambitious or lazy). The findings, heavier women were often regarded as lazy, slow, undisciplined, and giving, while thin women were perceived as conceited, bitchy, mean, and controlling. Now we have fat shaming and thin shaming. For some reason, society thinks it's okay to talk about either of these. Who are you to decide what makes someone else beautiful? Who are you to make fun of anyone for being overweight or being too skinny? What happened to encouraging one another to help lift them up? Maybe they don't need your help but I'm sure they don't need your negative opinion either. So Stop it. Stop judging other women. I know we’ve all done it before—seriously, no one is innocent—but it has to stop now. You can’t possibly know anything about a woman’s life based on her weight. Just because a woman is overweight doesn't necessarily mean she is unhappy and needs to hear how you can help her get 'better?' And just because a woman is thin and accepted socially as 'beautiful' that doesn't mean she is happy in her own skin and doesn't have insecurities about her body as well. Whether you have been fat, average, athletic, thin or anywhere else on the scale... No doubt at some point you wanted to change something about yourself and people may not have agreed that it needed to be changed. Instead of them encouraging you and lifting you up to achieve your goals they told you: "you only need to lose 20 lbs", "you don't need to lose weight", or "you look great just the way you are." I have met many woman who were considered beautiful but had nasty personalities so therefore I didn't find them so and vice versa. Woman considered overweight or obese that had the biggest and most beautiful heart. You can't help but think they are beautiful and love them! Let a woman's personality speak for her not her dress size. Speaking from my experience, I have always been smaller but not due to just luck. I worked for it. I always played sports and always on the go. And yes I have my insecurities as anyone does and things I want to change. But as an average person you have to be careful who you vent to or you will be judged as the small girl who is trying to lose more weight. What if my goal wasn't to lose weight? Why does a change have to imply losing weight? What if my goal is to add muscle, tone up, become healthier, and on that note I would be adding weight in the form of muscle. What happens now? Oh. Let me tell you. They have an opinion on this too. Now, you'll get well don't put on too much muscle, you'll look like a guy or you'll be bulky and gross. So you can't win. So don't try. Just be you and love who YOU are. I finally am. Going for healthy without the scale or society telling me what I need to be.
I saw a great quote today... Everyone tells me, "too much" I tell them. "too much opinion."
Don't let other people tell you what you should look like or what goals you should go for in life, in fitness, in body image or anything else for that matter. You make your own destiny. So do it. Go for what YOU want and don't let ANYONE stop you. Be proud of who you are and where you are even if you want to change it. Self hate won't fix anything. You can love where you are and still work on changing it. There are as many body types as there are people out there. None should be considered more valuable than others. As the Glamour article concludes, “Hit pause the next time you find yourself sizing someone up. Every time you stop weight-judging in its tracks, you help the world see women for who they really are.” And don’t we all want to be seen for who we really are? Isn’t that, at the very least, what we deserve? I think so."